I am experiencing difficulties to convey my message in debating topics due to interruption by others(Mostly in office related issues) . My nature is like, I carefully listen others when others talk and wait for others to stop, buy due to this nature I am facing problems even logically I am in strong position. In discussions people around me just say and say and if I try to interrupt them by sharing my views or by asking questions still they continue to say, but it becomes difficult for me to behave in same manner. Issue is that people around me focus on that person views when I interrupt him or that person interrupt me. I am surprising what can be reason. a)Is it due to my voice sound is lower than others b)I say slowly as compare to others so they get chance to interrupt me etc.
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9pxe_TG43G0 This little video was created by a man named Dave Wood from Canada. I would dig deeper into this issue as something more sophisticated than a communication issue. This is more of a teaming issue, sounds like, and the way various personalities mix and work together and your communication issues are symptoms, likely among others. This video so happens to focus on MBTI and the findings of MBTI work traits are very compelling. There are others, as well, like DiSC. The learning to take away from this is to find out how your personality make-up works within a team, look out how others are relating to you, and then find ways to overcome the inherent weaknesses of each personality trait. In the process of teaming, these things begin to merge and gel where your complaint is either erradicated or minimized quite well. Many organizations pursue this where they hire a qualified tester to come in, measure everyone, then teach what the results mean and how to overcome challenges. Maybe you can propose something like this to your chain of command. What you describe makes you sound like an introvert and you are dealing with extraverts. (Caveat this that I just arrived at a conclusion from a short few lines and I am not qualified to make personality assessments in any way!! :)) |
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I can only second what David has said. Remember, only about 25% of the world communicates the same way you do. To sum up the issue I think you are having I would point to a great quote my Mark Horstman, of Manager Tools. He uses this quote to sum of Peter Druker's Communication Chapter in his management book. "Communication is what the listener does." I am very familiar with the DISC model. I learned of it through Manager-Tools.com which has over 30 podcasts on practical use of DISC in team communications. To put a personal perspective on this. DISC literally got me the job. I was out of work in 2009/10. I got an interview for a company in an industry I had zero experience in, so I knew I was already at a big disadvantage. When I recieved the list of interviewers I hit the web and researched each person (mostly LinkedIn). I was able to develop a solid guess at each person's DISC profile. At the interview I used the Manager Tools guidance for how to introduce to each DISC style. Of the five people, I nailed four of them 100% and the last I was able to quickly adjust my style. I then used my understanding of DISC during the interviews to tailor my communication in a way that best matched the person I was speaking with. I got the job. Every person who interviewed me gave a thumbs up glowing review. My boss hired me without any industry knowledge because he saw I had the ability to communicate and work across the entire organization. Communication is what the listener does. |
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Let me quote PMBOK v.4, page 255:
As you see, "the sender is responsible for making the information clear and complete so that the receiver can receive it correctly". You fail this task, since you know that your receivers are not patient/educated/polite enough to listen to you. I would suggest to use a different type of "encoding". Instead of verbal communication use something different, for example texts, graphs, presentations, etc. "Encode" your messages in a different way. |
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